Crushing on campus: the girls of Augusta University tell all

By Tyliyah Mosley | Staff Writer

I consider myself to be a rather driven and successful college student. Nothing could possibly stop me from achieving my goals.  

Except for a crush, that is. 

I had a crush one time. Then, I had one again.  

These days, I just feel them coming left and right. Having a crush just seems to be the biggest distraction and quickest way to plummet everything I’ve worked hard for here at AU.  

Maybe I’m being dramatic. Regardless of how true that is, I still wanted to get to the bottom of this crush phenomenon. What do the love lives of other girls at AU look like?  

Am I the only one who experiences such suffering? 

Regarding the general male population, a cute little blonde freshman social work major said, “The pickings are very slim. I’ve seen a couple guys that are cute, but I don't talk to them.” 

She describes her type as “cowboy” which according to her and her friend sitting beside her is “nonexistent on campus.” 

“There’s a difference between cowboy and a redneck,” the freshman explained.  

I think she made a fair point.  

While there may not be any “rodeo stars,” as she described, there are other cute boys on campus, according to a sophomore Psychology major who met her crush on the shuttle.  

"I like tall white guys who are very studious,” she said. 

Personally, I choose to distract myself with my passion for journalism and allow fate to decide whether it's meant to be between my crush and I.  

However, for the sophomore, she chose to be bold when she turned around and started talking to her crush on the shuttle bus. 

“I don't know, I just feel very confident this year,” she said.  

She shared with me that her crush is getting to a good place.  I’m super happy for her and not jealous.  

Her friend, sophomore Daphne Delgado is doing long distance with her boyfriend from high school. 

“Coming here created the opportunity for him to come here and see me,” she said.  

Daphne’s boyfriend lives in Athens. When the two spend time together in Augusta, they like to get food, go to the mall and go downtown as they are “trying to get to know Augusta.” 

I find that to be a sweet and an important college experience to highlight.  

I can recognize that not everyone in the college experience is single or engaged in casual, superficial, and even lustful relationships. I think it’s special to continue a relationship with your high school sweetheart and explore the college experience and other towns together. 

Freshman Biology major Leila Robbins defines her type to be men of color with a nice style. 

“They can't look sluggish and bummy,” she said. 

According to Leila, she “got too caught up” in her previous crush and described it as a “crash out.”

A “crash out”, in modern terms refers to losing self-control due to high levels of emotional reactivity. 

I can relate to this feeling. Typically, my crushes aren’t even people I know. I get uncomfortable with the idea that a stranger could trigger such emotional and idealistic feelings in me.  

I do feel that loss of self-control, which I need to maintain my position as a student. 

Leila’s friend who is a freshman nursing major shares a similar taste, defining men of color with a good sense of style, good music, and pretty teeth as her type.  

Her friend personally knows her crush.  

“It's complicated,” she said.  

“Unrequited love,” Robbins chimed in. 

The freshman nursing major admitted her crush to be “nonchalant,” due to his lack of communication with her outside of school. 

“It makes me feel confused. I don't want to get my feelings hurt like I usually do.” 

When I’m in the state of romanticizing a possible relationship with my crush, I remind myself of the idea that even if we did magically cross paths, I don’t even know if they could meet my standards.  

It doesn’t always lead me back to the focused path I prefer to stay on, but I’m learning to give myself grace. Afterall, I’m just a girl!  

I hope that anyone else who’s crushing on campus remains focused on their dreams, allowing romance and inspiration to enter their experience in whichever way it may show up. 

Contact Tyliyah Mosley at tymosley@augusta.edu

Photo: Junior Emily Bengston focuses in on her studies and not crushes!